Pardesi Logo Pardesi
Pardesi Community Forums Home   Search   Login   Register  

  Viewing User Profile for: mel
 About  Contact
Joined: 09-24-2004 12:51 PM
Last Login: 10-02-2013 07:42 AM
Location: Unavailable to anonymous users.
Occupation: Unavailable to anonymous users.
Interests: Unavailable to anonymous users.
Email: Unavailable to anonymous users.
MSN IM: Unavailable to anonymous users.
AIM: Unavailable to anonymous users.
Yahoo IM: Unavailable to anonymous users.
ICQ: Unavailable to anonymous users.
 Post Statistics
mel has contributed to 509 out of 1,758 total posts (28.95% of total).
Most Recent Posts:
Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 10/26/2004 3:21:56 PM   (Total replies: 1)
Hi Mary, From my own personal experience I am not sure that you can ever "get-through" to anyone unless they give you an opening. One way to approach it may be to wait and let time provide you with an opening (and in the meantime have your husband try to smooth the dividing edges out a bit). Best of Luck!

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 9/20/2005 9:11:34 AM   (Total replies: 1)
Hi Stephenie, Welcome to the forums site! Thank you for sharing with us. I certainly understand where you are coming from. IE. If his mom would faint seeing a photo of you two together, how is she going to handle you accompanying him to India and spending the rest of your lives together? I think you have a genuine reason to be concerned about this aspect and I would definitely talk to Prajna about this feeling. In a good relationship, discussions of these sorts are possible and will do ...

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 9/20/2005 9:17:14 AM   (Total replies: 0)
Forgot one more thing: Probably a photo of you two together is not the best gift right now. While things are changing, many Indian families still frown upon "dating" and this will only serve to cause her concern. Furthermore, public shows of affection are frowned upon by many people still in India. For example, a photo of you two touching in anyway probably would make her faint. I only say this because even when I am in public in India with my husband of many years and the father of my ...

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 2/13/2006 9:33:38 AM   (Total replies: 1)
Hello Stella01 and welcome to the forums site! I am very sorry for the troubles you have had these past years with your MIL but I am glad that you were able to share with us here. Your story is very important because it shows that things do not always work out with time and you have found a way to cope with that. I know there are alot of people who read here but do not post and I am sure that some of them are going through the same troubles. I hope your story will help them ...

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 2/14/2006 7:01:05 PM   (Total replies: 1)
Hi April, Truth of the matter is, I think you have a pretty good grasp on the situation. Satya reminds me alot of someone I once knew. My friend was taken completely by surprise when his family did not approve his choice because he was sure that his family would respect his decision even if they did not like it. It caused a lot of heartache for him because he never expected his family would feel the way they did. My friend's fiancee never saw it coming and to say it "blind-sided" her is an ...

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 2/21/2006 9:11:28 AM   (Total replies: 0)
Well said ladies :-)

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 2/21/2006 11:02:05 AM   (Total replies: 1)
Hi April, First let me address the fact that you have been told by your friends to "dump" him before you get hurt. No one knows what is right for you but you. You have to listen to your heart. Secondly, the fact that Satya has opened up and admitted that things are not going to be easy is really a good sign. Its a start and as we all know we have to have a beginning somewhere! ~mel~

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 2/28/2006 12:50:21 PM   (Total replies: 1)
April, I can tell from last night's post that you are in anguish right now because you are worried about what his decision can mean to the future of your relationship. I would feel the same way if I were you. I can empathize with you and wish there was something I can say that would make you feel better. I can not even begin to speculate on Satya's motives or what are behind them. I think Dollmommy and Tabby have done a very nice job with offering advice so I do not have too much to add. ...

Re: Building a relationship with an Indian Mother-in-Law 3/25/2006 1:17:36 PM   (Total replies: 1)
Hi fajita, Welcome to the forums site. I love your screen name! I am sorry I have not been able to post before now in response to your posting. I have thought of doing so a dozen times but I wanted my response to be well thought out, not just a rushed two or three sentence comment. I actually want to make several comments on some of the things you have mentioned but before I do so I feel it is really important for you to find a new support system and someone you can talk to about all ...

Re: Health Insurance need help and expert advice 8/9/2009 3:11:30 PM   (Total replies: 0)
bvfrenchknitter - good advice. I agree with you 100%, insurance in the USA is a mess and expensive! Let's hope a solution presents itself soon. Thank you for posting! ~mel~

Search for more...

Copyright (c) 2001-2006 Pardesi Services LLC